Schrodinger's Cat

I like The Big Bang Theory, I however don't get to watch a lot of it. This was some advice Sheldon gives to Penny when Penny expresses her anxiety about a potential relationship between her and Leonard......
I had told my friend about this recently, quoted it back to me today ......:).
Just thought I'd share it with you guys :)

Self Respect

I HAd to Blog about this now.......
              We in college are going to be doing a work shop on Self-Esteem for which I have been reading up recently. I came across this article today, just a few minutes ago, it's here,  this article speaks about the difference between self esteem and self respect, it says that self esteem involves mental process, encompasses thoughts and beliefs of one self, however it isnt of a concerte nature. It is just developing pride in your self for who you are. The article then goes on to talk about the inner voice and how just having positive affirmations isn't enough, one has to act out such values too, this is where the concept of self respect jumps in.  Self respect is "walking the talk" not just correcting a negative thought it is as the definition says,the quality of being worthy of esteem or respect.

 " doing things that will  measure up to external standards of good behavior, accomplishment and cause for admiration.So then unlike self esteem which is internal and can easily be effected by moods,Your mood doesn't affect these standards because they come from outside of you.
             NOBODY can take them away from you. If someone tries to cut you down, you can compare that person's words with what you have accomplished and the standards of behavior that you attempt to attain. The words just don't fit the facts. And that erodes their credibility, not yours.
              These accomplishments are not susceptible to moods. You can have a serious bout of self-doubt or a bad day. Without these(the accomplishments), you could be plunged into a downward spiral of lowering self-esteem. With these foundations, however, you can only plunge so far if you choose to use them. The whispering voices of doubt are proven wrong by the solid track record of positive behavior.
               Conversely, if you do bad things, your self-respect is going to suffer. And odds are you will have to replace it with self-esteem."

            What I find very interesting is how self esteem and self respect are intertwined, why these article struck me was because,it helped me understand the value of positive behavior and that self talk, although it has its virtues has to be backed by action.
I cant just say, "I Love my self." I gotta show it. It maybe simple things, like avoiding people that bring you down, buying that pair of shoes, getting a particular hair cut or even not staying up till 1 am to finish post that I just HAVE to write for some reason. Although things like self esteem as well as self respect can be a double edged sword (in many ways ... m lazy to write about it just now), anything is excess isn't good.
I'm Glad I had this surprisingly AHA moment today, it has strangely put things in a different perspective and is something that will color my thoughts hence forth. :)

Happy Birthday VAkil!

Today is the Birthday of one of my Favourite Persons :)
Karen Vakil..... A friend I have grown to love and adore ....She the Turk to J.D

What makes special people more special is the fact that they don't really realise how special they are..

             Karen is one of them.. I have said this before and I will say it again, I wouldn't be me today if I hadn't met her.Friends who have known me are surprised to find Karen and I are close, " You'll seem so different ", they say " I'm surprised you'll are friends."

Dreamers :) Karen and I.

              Loving acceptance for people is what Karen has taught me, I am a very  judgmental person by default(not a very nice place to be). However, seeing Karen interact with people, just as they are and her natural acceptance of different sorts of people, helped me to do the same.Its difficult to describe the way she can intentionally make someone feel better without them knowing that she has done so, the capacity she has to Love and how she quietly lives this virtue out in her life without parading it around to everyone she meets. Its the little things, the little things... they really little things that she does that define who she is as a person. Being there for people, tell them that you love them without really saying it, being loving without feeling loving, brutal honesty about oneself, second chances, there are many things I still learn from you and I guess will continue learning. I am not claiming that sun shines out of Ur arse.... all I am saying is that if I didn't know you, I would hate the person I am today........................I am the most difficult person that I have to accept, when I accept others I learn to accept myself too............................
              If there was a way, I would let U know how it feels to be blessed with some one who is woven so intricately in this life that I live, that in its absence the whole design would a very different and horribly dull.
Sadly sometimes my words don't always have the power to do justice to beauty, to people and to emotions.However, I know u know what I mean :).

Love U Vakil! :)

A difficult Job.

                                               "You will realize when you have kids "
      Those words always have made me uncomfortable.. Its like in a horror movie when some character hints at whats in store ahead.
      I have always heard this response whenever I have criticized my parents on their parenting skills.
In the Song Affirmation by Savage Garden there is this line

"I believe that parents did the best job they knew how to do"

Well now I  empathize more and more with what my parents had to deal with.
It really is not that easy, and more often than not you get labeled 'bad' for the good that your trying to do!

What has caused this realization ?

          The really annoying children in the tuition classes I work for and the kids of the previous years confirmation batch (oh, I don't want to not give the confirmation students of 2010 their credit for giving me a renewed respect for my parents!)

           I don't know how the Parents do it , how my parents did it. I know how I was as a child, pretty argumentative about the 'whys' and 'whats' of things, if I had to deal with me as an adolescent I would go MAD.
          I remember what my brother and I did and said as kids, while we loved our parents, we also made it a point to express how we 'didn't' love them at times. However, our parents allowed this expression, I remember telling my mum " I wish I was never born", my brother saying " If you ll' don't know how to take care of kids you;ll shouldn't have given birth to us in the first place."
          Now I know how it feels to know, that what your doing is going to be met with rebellion but doing it anyways.Knowing that your kids are gonna hate you but, still taking the brunt of it because you love them.
So thinking about the kids in the confirmation class and those at the tuition, I went to my mama and said a heartfelt sorry for being a total ass, "Parenting is not easy" I said " Its not easy" I kept saying.
It isn't.

         

Christmas

My Dog of 11 years died on Christmas day,
It was sad and kinda unexpected, we knew she was ill on the 24th so we decided that we would take her to the doctor the next day...but well, I guess we did underestimate how ill she was. Although I will miss her, Pity's Dying thought me sumthing...and well even if it is something that I have known, It is something I have come to experience now.
         On Christmas day when I was attending the morning mass with my family, I was wondering about how the people who have lost their loved ones may feel on days like Christmas, New year, Birthdays and special days they shared with their Loved ones. Loosing my dog made me feel so gloomy even when I was trying not to be , it got me thinking about how those others managed a smile on days like these. When those who made the festive season one to look forward to weren't here. The gloom in me was very small compared to what they must be going through.
So, I said a prayer.... for them.. and for me.
          I guess God heard my prayer, because after that whenever I thought about Pity; whether it was her lifeless being lying on the floor, or whether it was her running to greet us every time we came home, or the way she used to gently lick our faces when she was happy....I could do nothing but say THANK YOU. I still am thanking God for her...because we think of her every time, she was such a fixture in our family and while we do feel her absence, we are privileged to thank God for her presence.
           Losing pity has brought life to those words, "Mourn not but, Rejoice in the life that was lived."

To be able to lift up to God in Thanks, what would otherwise be a plea for help was a a special gift Christmas gave, a Gift that I could have only hoped for.

SMS Talk ;)

Zena:                     It’s funny you know it’s not like we are oblivious to the truth that we and those we know are going to go one day, yet we love.

Cheryl:                       We Love because we know we and those we know are going to go some day.

Still not the Brightest

Yellow, thats what she saw , Yellow, the brightness of the colour endeared her to it, with a frown she flicked a fly out of the pristine yellow sheet she was observing, Yellow.

 Staring didn't help at all soon all she was going to see around was fluorescent yellow , why she didnt believe in her self any more she Questioned, what was lost? what did die within?

Her Vibrant being was stripped ........................Yellow.

That's what is the colour of my soul now, It used to be Bright Orange first but now its Yellow without the Red.